April 1st, 2009
This is from my ezine this month… an article and exercise on values.
Values may be something you have visited in your workplace, either in your own business or on team building days – but have you considered how important they are in your private life?
They are the core of who you are, how you respond to the world and the decisions you make. Working with your values can help you to understand yourself, your motivations and help you to make decisions
At the bottom of the post is a values exercise to help you to recognise yours. Good luck with this, this process has been transformation for several of my clients, and for me. I hope it is for you.
VALUES, ARE YOURS GIVING YOUR STRESS?
By Gay Landeta
Values are the notions, morals and concepts that influence our
choices and help us to determine our behaviour and actions.
Shaped by our belief systems and originating through a
myriad of influences including our families, our culture and our
experiences, they are a very personal expression of who we are.
They are also quite subjective and can change through our life.
They remain hidden in the subconscious for most of us and for some
they are a primary source of stress.
How so? Because values dictate such a large proportion of our
responses in the world.
For example, consider the situation of a client of mine. She was
becoming more and more irate with her friends and family. She felt
they were untruthful, this judgment was creating an enormous amount
of pressure in her life and she was afraid the resulting stress was
beginning to impact negatively in many aspects of her life.
Upon working out her values she recognised that her number one
value was truth. At first this justified her anger until she had the
realisation that her truth was not everyone else’s truth.
At that moment she was able to let go of her judgment and see that
everyone was being true to their self. This letting go of justice
for ‘just is’ meant she could just let go into her life and enjoy it.
Doing a values exercise is simple. Firstly stop and allow yourself
to relax. Now start to brain storm all the values that influence your life.
These can include but are not limited to such values as :
freedom purpose accomplishment
connectedness philosophy accountability
security generosity beauty
discipline friendship happiness
fairness community calm
adventure family loyalty
equality charity goodness
self reliance orderliness simplicity
meaning pleasure integrity
unity justice harmony
truth spirituality self-improvement
serenity wisdom wealth
hard work creativity joy
…the list goes on. Once you have a selection of 10 or so choose
your top five. You can use the above list if you are not sure where
Once you have your top five values delete two. You now know the most
important values in your life at this time. Consider how these
influence your life.
Do any of these impact negatively or cause you stress? Do any need
Which one is your number one value? Once you know that you can use
it pro-actively in your life. You can use it to help you to make
decisions and to prioritise the important things in your life.
Finally, how can you use it to help you to Create the Life you want to Live?
This Month’s Resolve : Align to your Values, and Feel the Freedom!
I would love to hear your comments…
That’s it for now,