Gay Landeta,

If you have any doubt about the impact that your thoughts and feelings have on your body take a moment to experiment feeling happy, sad, mad, resentful, serene…. each one changes our physiology as well as our posture and visage. Re-framing our negative thoughts connected to those feelings is one very quick way to improve our health and well-being. But, sometimes changing those thoughts can be hard. If you are having some trouble re-framing try this wonderful process developed by Byron Katie.

Have a look at her website The Work for an incredible amount of free resources – or buy any of her books.


Changing those negative thoughts is going to help you break free of much suffering! The only trick to this is to either write the process down or get someone else to ask you.

1. Write down your belief as clearly and simply as possible. (One issue only please) ask yourself Is it true? Write down yes or no, either answer is fine.

Ask yourself again: Can you absolutely know it is true? Again yes or no and either is fine.

2. How does it make you feel to believe that? Go into fine detail here. Get the pain!

3. How would it be if you didn’t believe that thought? Imagine if a magic wand erased it – how would life be? Usually pretty sweet!

4. Now turn your original statement around. Important Note: do not make it into an affirmation, just turn it gently around, ie an I can’t into I can.

Now ask yourself if this is not at least as true or truer as your original belief. Mostly you will see that yes, it is at least as true. Now think of three times to prove that.


If you have trouble you might need some help getting to the core, keep digging or feel free to give me a call!

Enjoy breaking old patterns!



This article was written by Gay Landeta with the intention of helping you to Create the Life you Want to Live! All rights reserved 2013.