How our thoughts help and hinder us in our healing : Animal Kinesiology pt 2
Cick here to read part 1 – Animal Kinesiology and Intuition or just dive in here!
The interesting thing about working with animals is that while they feel emotions they do not ‘think’ in the same way as we do. Yes, they appear to think – sometimes in a surprisingly sophisticated way – but they do not have the same intellect that we do. For example, what dog would be thinking “hmmm, I seem to be feeling a bit blah and putting on a bit of weight, I think i need to eat a few less carbs and hit the gym.” These kinds of processes are reserved for the busy little human brain.
This ability to think and process can be as much of a block to healing as a pathway to it. Because we have the ability to think about what the core of our pain is we can easily re-ignite it, even when we have moved into a better place, just through our focus.
For example it is a very few individuals who come out of a messy relationship who do not worry that the behaviour will happen again. Sometimes we focus on it so much that we re-create it! We use our thinking processes to inform our approach to similar situations, to help us to navigate and avoid pain. Yes, some of this is instinctual and common to all animals, but much of this is central to our human thought processes.
Once we start to pull apart how our thoughts are contributing to our pain we can really begin to be open for an entirely new experience of life. We may continue to be triggered by circumstances but we can use our thought processes to see the differences, instead of our emotions to see the similarities as we have a moment. As the emotions become less involved we regain more choice about how we respond.
With an animal, their nature is their nature. Balancing Lola (our rescue Lhasa) when she arrived for her incessant barking worked only with the aspect that was bad training and to a lesser extent enjoying her own voice. The barking that happens because she is a dog with a fairly small brain, bred to love and guard cannot be changed. Honey, the Australian Shepherd will always want to have a job in the herd. Animals have no motivation nor reason to change.
However with us humans, our thought processes can start us on a journey and we can use them to continue to take us forward, regardless of our nature. We can use our thoughts as well as energetic processes (such as kinesiology) to change who we are at very deep levels.
We will always be the same innate person underneath –
And because of the inter-connectedness that we have with everything around us, as we change so will everything. That is why I have heard clients say “after that session I went home and could not believe how different my husband was!” Or “my kids no longer seem to need me all the time to help them do everything.”
I think this is such an important concept to remember. We can spend far too much time wanting situations or other people to change. The reality is as we change they will. So the more carefully we focus our attention on what we want the more everything around us will change.
Our innate nature will remain as it is but our response to the world can be transformed.
Conversely, the more we focus on our pain the more that will persist.
So choose your focus!
…. Some tools that you can use to help you focus on the limitless potential that future you could experience ….
self help emotional release vlog – I popped this up for children but it is just a useful for everyone!
Have a look through my Hints and tips for goal setting blog category…
Let go of Drama Triangle – This is part 3 of a vlog on letting go of one of the most common pain inducing habit! Follow the links to parts 1 and 2 first…
Meditation and mindfulness – I love the Insight Timer app – totally free too.
Psychology of Peace Program … really take control of your thoughts and let go of the emotional pain generated by less than useful habits and patterns.
And of course (!!) Kinesiology sessions where we always look at how we can harness the helpful qualities of the mind as well as dealing with painful patterns.
“Your destiny is to
fulfil those things upon which you focus most intently. So choose to keep your focus on that which is truly magnificent, beautiful, uplifting and joyful. Your life is always moving toward something.”~ Ralph Marston
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Holidays often bring up complex emotions.
In Buddhism this is called the second arrow of suffering. The first arrow is the pain that we can’t avoid. It is part of life. The second arrow – the one we shoot ourself with, is optional. Falling down can’t be helped. Creating a story around the pain is.
For 30 days take a picture every day of something that means something to you. It might be your child, a leaf, a building, anything. Print it out – this step is important as our phones and social media are stuffed full of photos we forget almost immediately. Then put it in a beautiful journal and write a few (or lots) of words about why this photo is meaningful to you.
An eclipse is a time to reset … as the full moon (which signifies our past and all we need to let go) is obscured we get the chance to reset. Then, once the moon reappears, we need to do the work to make that reset concrete.
Of course I know I ‘should’ just accept it, it was a bit of residual full moon craziness and certainly not a reflection of a usual week or the work I do. But as enlightenment is still eons away I went home caught in a negative spiral of frustration and annoyance aimed directly at myself.
Once I had got that out (and it felt good to get it out without the internal judge and jury pronouncing sentence!), I then asked myself “So Gay, obviously this can’t happen again, what are we going to do about it?” And I came up with a set of processes that will take care of most of what went wrong and the rest, well, those will be things outside my control! I felt better and slept well, instead of the old pattern of being awake all night stressing about the situation.
In these busy times it certainly seems we have to make a decision to not be busy all the time and to become actively mindful and create space in our lives – otherwise the madness continues. This slowing down is much more difficult that it sounds though.
Perhaps someone challenges you. Perhaps you have to learn new ways to communicate to build a relationship with them, expand your compassionate heart to accept them for who they are and to accept parts of yourself that are less than attractive. You may not feel light and free but the gifts they are teaching you will help you connect more deeply with who you truly are which will, in turn help you become lighter and more free. These are truly our Zen Masters, helping us to enlightenment.
Other times those that challenge us just make us smaller. Perhaps if we were ‘a better person’ we could grow but we can’t and so we beat ourselves up. Therein lies the problem! These people are perhaps not expanding our soul. Maybe we just need to bless them and let them go, at least for the moment, giving ourself the opportunity to regroup, to lighten up and expand again.
