lots of great responses from my eZine article last month…….. hope you enjoy it!

Gay

These 7 patterns can absolutely stop us in our tracks.

The first step is to identify what is stopping you, then next to break the pattern.

The first and the one that can keep us on the brink of our next step (sometimes for years) is called the Dweller on the Threshold’ This is all about being stuck. When we are in this pattern we become caught in beliefs like: ‘Something or someone is preventing me from moving forward’ or ‘Nothing feels possible’. When we are stuck we are in the way of our own self, our little personality is stopping the True Self from stepping forward.

To move out of this position we have to commit to the bigger plan of our life. It is time to stop being small and start trusting in our True Self and the journey we are on.
The next pattern is Illusion. In this pattern we are cheating ourself and are caught in the illusion of reality instead of seeing reality. We are fooling ourself, taking action without really knowing what we are doing, following blindly and judging instead of using our powers of discernment. We become identified with an idea, an opinion and information instead of being clear about what we want, being honest about where we are and making a choice based on truth.
In Uncertainty fear becomes our controller. Instead we need to step up and take responsibility and dare to see. We must develop the courage to use our inner senses and break old patterns such as fight or flight and a lack of decision and action.
The pattern of Inertia is apparent when we are hiding from our self, becoming too busy or procrastinating. The route out of this pattern is to simply see the essentials and act accordingly. We can choose to do it with pain (moaning and groaning) or with goodwill – my suggestion is to use the goodwill track! Feels much easier.
The next pattern is Blindness. When we are caught in this trap we are not daring to see. We become overly identified with our beliefs. It looks right not to do things and we become stuck in ’I am right, I know it’ (in otherwise we are closed). The way out is to be open, see ourself face to face. We can then free ourself from telling ourselves those little lies based on beliefs that were created to keep us small.
I love Glamour, well not really, but it does make me laugh. This always reminds me of the teen ager who spends hours in front of the mirror, forgetting about everyone else. This is the narcissistic place, we fall in love with ourself which (when overdone) ultimately creates greater separation with others. We miss seeing others light and instead always put ourselves first. The way out of this is to develop altruistic thinking and a service mentality so we can enjoy allowing others to go first.
And finally we have Ignorance. This is the really tricky one because we simply don’t know what we don’t know. We assume we already know all that we need and we have not opened up to the ability to sense our Inner Wisdom that will alert us to the fact that something is missing.
The reality is we will all fall into these holes more than once in our journey, but recognizing them is the first step out.
If you want any help stepping out of your hole kinesiology can help! Feel free to give me a ring 0418 795 135.

All the best, Gay

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Happy Year of the Dragon everyone! Another New Year opportunity to look at where you are and where you might like to head towards. This booster is one my Create your Year Workshop participants always love – Maori Drawing.

I published this as my first blog, go the this link for part one. Take your time and do the process.

Once you are complete go to part two. to discover what your subconscious is telling you. Many find much hidden gold in this process to use to inform your goals, intentions and growth for the year.

Enjoy!
Gay

This article was written by Gay Landeta with the intention of helping you to Create the Life you Want to Live! All rights reserved 2011.

I have a confession to make. I have been suffering from inertia for a few weeks now.

I thought it was just end of year tiredness or boredom or something but I have to accept it is just old fashioned inertia. Can’t be stuffed. All I feel like doing is sleeping! True, I have had early mornings with puppy plus puppy responsibility on top of work so rest is welcome but I do have a couple of things that must get done and they haven’t been. Sleep keeps claiming me!

Don’t get me wrong, sleeping is great and with our super busy life often taking time out, doing nothing and just chilling is not only essential to our physical health but to our emotional and spiritual as well. But sometimes slowing down grinds us to a halt and our resistance to move seems insurmountable. Inertia takes over.

Inertia is not useful and is considered to be one of the 7 blocks on our spiritual path. It is a way we hide from our trueself. Being able to see what needs to happen – not what should, nor what we want but what NEEDS to happen  – and then taking action is fundamental to our growth.

But sometimes shifting forward feels almost impossible. Here are my top tips in identifying and overcoming the dreaded inertia. Work towards answering yes to each before proceeding to the next step. The process of doing so may well help you to find an edge to your comfort zone, something you could explore but haven’t yet had the impetus to do so. Choosing to do so will help you grow. Even if you choose not to you will at least ensure YOU are in charge not your comfort zone!

(I have assumed that you have some goals or intentions that you are not doing. If not you can go to my blog for this article on goal setting to create yours and THEN work through your inertia. Although you might find with the right goals your inertia disappears!)

1. Is this the ‘Right’ thing to do?

This is a fundamental question because we spend so much time doing what we ‘should’ or ‘ought’ to. ‘Should’ tends to take away our feelings of being in charge. Change it to you could do this and make sure you have a 100% commitment to it and to accepting the consequences that may arise from it.

Regardless of whether it is doing the dishes, writing an ezine, finishing an assignment or starting a meditation practice there are consequences for doing as well as not doing it. Sometimes what stops us is a lack of acceptance of the consequences. Think about both the positive and the negative; the loss of time and energy vs the clean house, the feeling of success, the connection to our deeper nature… all of these will have ramifications and may even ignite old issues that need to be resolved. Recognising these is often enough to shift them and open the door to moving forward.

It is also true that sometimes we just have an obligation to do something. By reconciling and accepting the consequences BEFORE committing we can avoid the feelings of resentment that so often make it difficult to enjoy a simple act of service for another.

In these cases, it is often the loss of time, energy or what we would rather be doing that we may resent. One way to avoid that is to make sure that what we are committing to is in alignment with our values. For example for a parent it may be the commitment to the value of health that spurs them to making a healthy dinner instead of resorting to Maccas, for me,  getting this eZine out (even if late!) is part of my commitment to my values of reliability and service. If you don’t know your values you check out my article to figure our your own personal values.

2. Is this the Right thing to do right now, is this your current priority?

Very often we get caught in red herrings and time wasting stuff that is really not important to do right now. Are we really doing the most important thing we need to do right now. Sometimes having a sleep really is the next most important thing but on other occasions it is just an avoidance of the necessary. Ensure that this really is the essential next thing to do by taking time to listen deeply.

3. Then give it a go and see how it feels…

Reaffirm to yourself why you are doing this and then make a commitment to do whatever it is for a period of time. Make it short if you are really caught in inertia, maybe 10 or 15 minutes.  Once you start how does it feel? Often once you get going the shift in the energy is often enough to carry you through to completion, on other occasions it still seems a major struggle.

If you are struggling it may not be yet in perfect Universal time. For example usually when I start the eZine it just writes itself. Other times I need to take a break and come back to it and when I do it flows once again. Do your best to work with the flow to prevent struggle but be aware inertia will slow you to begin with and put up a bit of a struggle of its own. Keep going long enough to know that any struggle is part of it not being the ‘right time’ as opposed to general inertia.

At this point if it is still not working then stop. Wait. Wait even longer. And then wait a little more. Wait past the ‘should’ and ‘ought to’ point, wait well past the boredom point. Once you get past that wait even longer till you are full of the fire to move.

You could try this…. this was a piece of advice I read recently to someone who was suffering from the early effects of adrenal fatigue (exhaustion) which, untreated, certainly can lead to inertia: Go to bed right after work on Friday night. Do not get up aside from eating until Sunday noon. You may not read, watch TV or use any electronic items, you must just lie there asleep or with your eyes closed for the full time. The person who received and acted on this advice said they felt incredible when they re-emerged into the world.

Good luck and love to hear how you get through your inertia!

This article was written by Gay Landeta with the intention of helping you to Create the Life you Want to Live! All rights reserved 2011.

Surely once we have mastery over ourselves we have inner leadership?

Perhaps not. Inner leadership is not so much about managing ourselves as leading ourselves.

Managing is about doing what is necessary today to get to where you want to go.

Leading is about creating the vision.

Inner leadership is about finding that quiet place within, amongst all the clamouring of all the voices and determining what it is that you are really wanting. Once found and aligned with it creates a sense of peace in our life that can be sorely wanted in these crazy times.

Outer Leadership, on the other hand, is about being driven by what others think, what others want for us, what we think we should have or think or do. Essentially Outer Leadership is about being driven by factors that are external to who we truly are and what our purpose for being is.

If you are finding yourself focusing on these external things you have just been distracted. Our true purpose is very unlikely to be a owning a nice new car, or a lovely house. Those things could be seen as an important part of managing and supporting ourselves so we can achieve our vision and be living our purpose, but they are not the purpose itself.

Getting clear about the big picture and separating it away from the management of our lives can stop us limiting ourselves by our ego desires. We can stop trying to figure out how to make something happen and just allow our-self to dream. Dreams can create reality when they align with our highest.

In trying to figure out what our highest callings we have to let go of our cultural and family conditioning. Our society puts a myriad of expectations on us including a picture of success equals a certain type of job, a flash car, a big house, the requisite number of happy children and exotic holidays. It is oh so easy to buy into this and use these as ideals that lead us.

Instead to get to our True Vision we need to allow ourself to dream of what is important to us in our heart of hearts. And then step up to make them happen.

Lets play….

Which of these values are important to you and why:

Authenticity

Serenity

Compassion

Service

Just is

Beauty

Right Relationships

Truth

Joy

Gratitude

(you can add in any more you can think of)

Now, when you start dreaming of what your purpose may be gather the values that you hold dear and see how they fit into that vision.

Or simply gather the values together and see how that looks in the bigger picture of your life. Start to manage yourself  to achieve more of that and you may find your purpose finds you.

This article was written by Gay Landeta with the intention of helping you to Create the Life you Want to Live! All rights reserved 2011.

This went out to my private clients last night, and I thought I might post it here as well just in case you keep in touch by RSS…. If you aren’t a client but want to stay in touch join me on facebook!

11:11:11  is coming up – a day strongly aspected with 11 symbology. In addition to the numerological significance (11 is said to be a master number) there has been much written about the 11:11 doorway which is part of the December 2012 mythology.  All of these dates and events are said to be opening us up to higher dimensions and better ways of being. Certainly I am seeing people working with major transformations right now in the clinic.   

We also have the added bonus of the 11th directly following the full moon (letting go!) that happens on the 10th.  

I feel that the interesting thing about any of these dates is the impact that we can have if we work with them…. Research proves that only 1% of people are needed to change anything…. Imagine how many people will be meditating for peace on the 11th or doing something spiritually enlightening? I would invite you to join by spending a few minutes in silence at 11:11. If that won’t work how about stopping sometime at 11 minutes after the hour – you will be joining others somewhere in the world! Another neat idea could be to spend a few moments each hour at 11 minutes past! Just set your phone or watch for hourly reminders.

Another very cool thing that is taking place on 11:11:11 is the media event One Day on Earth, where people all over the world will record their human experience over a 24-hour period. This event will enable them to contribute their voice to the second annual global day of media creation. You can be part of it by signing up at One Day on Earth

I just got a new bff – a puppy (you probably know if you have friended me on facebook or joined my like page https://www.facebook.com/Createthelifeyouwanttolive ) … she’s been on my wish list for a few years and she just waltzed into my life… watching her has reminded me of the wisdom of just taking life a wiggle at a time!

Whatever you do Friday – or every day – enjoy it a wiggle at a time!

Wishing you all the best, 
Gay

PS just been organising dates and others things including :

v  Create your Year dates for January
v  Rhythmic Movement dates for February
v  Create your Business – Laser Mentoring sessions
v  Online shop open – bonus options …
v  And Create birthday celebration …
v  And more….
 
If you can’t wait email me for info, otherwise expect the next ‘What’s On’ to arrive soon – I just wanted this heads up out before the 11th!
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They help us to develop the quality of observation of the self.

The ability to observe the self in a detached yet connected manner is an important step in our evolution as a human being. The ability to observe the emotions, thoughts, feelings and sensations of our daily existence is something that can be cultivated to help us become less attached to our daily dramas and less caught in the stories of our life.

In spiritual traditions meditation is used to learn to observe the self. The process of regularly sitting with the thoughts, feelings and sensations that drive our human existence without being caught within them creates a calm yet focused mind and allows us ultimately to access more of our intelligence. Research shows regular meditators have a more developed frontal lobe, the area of critical reasoning, than non meditators.

How can astrology and profiling be used in a similar manner? By using the information attained to help to detach from the drama of life instead of excuse our behaviour.

The more we step away from the situation, the clearer the best and most appropriate response becomes. Offering advice or support to a friend is often easier than giving it to ourselves because we have a bigger perspective and less emotional attachment to the outcome.

As we become the observer we start to develop a bigger perspective. As we learn more about ourselves, through a profiling system, astrology or similar, we see patterns emerge of who we are and can learn to navigate our behaviour in a different manner.

For example in my life I do my best to focus my perfectionism to aim for excellence while listening for the clues that I am falling into nit picking. My stubbornness supports the persistence that is needed to be a successful business owner and I am getting better at seeing when I am hitting my head against the concrete wall! And my sensitivity helps me to tune in to others but learning how to manage it and see the bigger picture was the key to being able to work effectively and not become overwhelmed.

So, while I don’t agree with becoming slavish about anything, I do suggest experiment with using any information that rings true with you, whether astrology or numerology or Disc profiling or Myers Briggs to help you to see yourself from a greater perspective and refocus out dated behaviour into a new and improved version.

This month I invite you to explore some patterns of behaviour. Sit with them, perhaps in meditation, and observe how they impact in your life, positively and negatively.

Once you see clearly how this is impacting start to make some conscious choices of other, more appropriate ways of reacting.

This article was written by Gay Landeta with the intention of helping you to Create the Life you Want to Live! All rights reserved 2011.

I have been musing today on how we can be so attached to often quite inconsequential ups and downs, especially when we are feeling a little vulnerable. And, let us be honest, even if they are incredibly impacting, dwelling on them and allowing them to take us for a ride is not usually very helpful at all.

Usually I can take a bit of emotional rough and tumble fairly well these days. I can see it for what it is, a momentary ruffling of the waves of the mind, but diving down deep it is still the same calm, still space.

But sometimes, on days that I am a little more agitated or the waves are in a little bit of a sensitive area, it is a little less easy. Those days really suck!

Years ago I had a solid daily meditation practice. It help a lot with having two wild boys and a business to run at home. something happened though and it fell through the cracks. I decided to become more mindful each day. Live my practice instead of keeping it in one place.

That was great, and I had lots of other tools with Brain Gym and kinesiology… but I think I really need both to stay sane these days! So I am working on creating a new daily practice. Every morning.

I reckon recreating a practice is more difficult than creating one in the first place. But I know the rewards so I will do my best to stick to it.

By Christmas it should be a regular feature in my life once again, and I will be doing a bit more duck diving those big waves! I hope.

Here’s to duck diving the emotional sea!

Cheers, Gay

this booster is from my last eZine… Hope you find some gold in it!

Passion and purpose. When these are missing life loses its meaning.Purpose may be difficult to find but it will find us – when we become passionate about life. This booster helps you to explore how you can develop more passion in your relationships and your life. Something we all want!

This will be a bit of a process… You might like to grab a pen and paper, a cup of tea and get comfy.

First think about times you feel passion. This may be while you are being creative, at work, with your kids, while being intimate with your partner, etc. Identify a passionate time for you.

Now identify your most dispassionate or lost place in your life. Consider some of the negative things you tell yourself. Perhaps I should be doing something else (ie this is the wrong place for me) or I don’t know what to do next (Ie I feel lost and have no direction) or I should do this next (Ie according to someone else, society or my culture I have to do X next), etc. Have a listen to all the negative and limiting language you use, much of it to try to keep you keeping on or taking the next step you think you SHOULD take.

Next imagine if you used those same phrases at your passionate time. If you tried to tell yourself what you should be doing next while playing with the kids, second guessing your next move in your next intimate encounter, or feeling hopeless and lost while involved in creating something. It just would not work. Same as in that part of your life.

Your challenge? Recognize the limits you put on yourself through language and practice reframing those negative phrases. Eg it is absolutely fine to be doing this right now or I will know what to do next when the time is right or Who knows what the next thing is to do, I will open myself up and just see.

Have fun!
Gay
PS if the old patterns are too hard to break come in for a session, let’s see what blocks we can break!

This article was written by Gay Landeta with the intention of helping you to Create the Life you Want to Live! All rights reserved 2011.

Neuroscience shows us that the stages of relationship are governed by chemicals in the brain. We start with good old lust, this is when we draw on our basic sex hormones, Estrogen and Testosterone.

We move onto attraction which requires appropriate levels of Dopamine (involved in addiction also!) Seratonin and  Adrenaline.  (think about that racing heart when s/he rings!)

Finally we have the attachment stage which is the area that is still not well understood. It seems Oxytocin, the mother or cuddle hormone, appears to be the lead hormone here.

No wonder, once in a relationship, we can lose our best intentions and become caught. With all those hormones and chemicals running rampant it can be difficult to stay connected to reality, especially if we also believe the myths of relationship. We end up bound into something that might not be the best for us – or our mate.

So before starting out in a relationship think about some of the myths of relationship, bust them and get set up for success, here are 5 that came to my mind …..

1. There is only one for me…. In actual fact we have many potential mates. For example I recently read an article that suggested the best number of potential mates to pick from is 9. Less than that and you might miss the perfect being, more than that and you will just end up confused!

2. We have to be attracted immediately to make it work …. You can actually make attraction and connection happen with almost anyone! New York psychologist, Professor Arthur Arun, had strangers spend an hour and a half talking about the intimate details of their lives and then 4 minutes silently looking into each other’s eyes. Many felt deeply attracted afterwards and 2 couples went on to marry!

3. Love can conquer all (for all us romance idealists out there!) …. Sorry but no. In fact hanging around in something that is really no good just becomes a habit. And the longer we stay, and the blurrier our intentions for a relationship are, the harder it is to leave. Better to make sure you know what you want BEFORE you get into relationship and have all those hormones and chemicals clouding reality.

NB Questions to ask yourself … Do I know what my deal beakers are? What are the values that I hold as important in relationship and what are my no-go zones? Now write these down so any incompatibility will become apparent sooner rather than later making it easier to call it quits.

4. I have to stay for the kids, the family, my parents, our financial future etc… Is that really true? Is this bad relationship really serving you AND your partner, or are you both stuck in a hole where no one can escape? Maybe starting a new life is not only good for you but also good modeling for your children.

But then again, perhaps it is your old patterning and issues breaking you apart. This is the time to get some counselling to get clear about the situation. Relationship counseling (together) is often very useful as well. This is also the time when that earlier list is very useful! And remember, if it is a lack of connection that is leading you to question your relationship try making time to look into each other’s eyes. (Remember – 4 minutes and strangers are attracted!) Might be just what you need to recognise your lover once again.

5. This might be the best that there is…… maybe that is true, maybe not. You are the only one who can judge that. Perhaps you are expecting too much. But maybe you are expecting to little! Does your one and only generally satisfy you? Total bliss is an impossible dream, especially the longer we stay in relationship. But the good MUST outweigh the bad. Substantially.

So what do you need to be ready for a great relationship?

*Feel good about yourself. Have boundaries in place and know what you are looking for. Write down a list!

*Make sure you feel truly worthy of a relationship, we are all fundamentally both flawed and magnificent!

*Appreciate the differences in us all. The more acceptance you have of your own self, the more you can accept another. And the more acceptance you have of your own self, the less likely you will settle for someone that doesn’t make you happy.

*And, if your relationship starts going haywire and you value it get counselling early, bad communication is one of the main reasons for relationship breakdown.

If you need a bit of relationship support give us a ring on 07 3255 0099 – a few sessions may be all you need to get you on your way to Creating the Life you want to Live!

© Gay landeta 2011 : all rights reserved.

by Gay Landeta

D X V X F > R

Commit this formula to memory! Why? Because this formula, sometimes called the Gleicher formula, holds the key to changing what is not working in your life. Once you understand what each component means and how they work together you can use it as fuel instead of sabotage when moving forward. It can become as easy as 2+2=4!

 The equation : Remember maths, I know you, too, were probably looking out the window so a quick reminder,  < or > equals greater than or less than. The point of the arrow is the smaller part of the equation. The other  calculation to recall is multiplication: when we multiply (X) we multiply the effect, not just add up the components.

D X V X F > R

R is for Resistance. Resistance is the big block to change. Getting stuck and not moving because of our fears is one of the biggest reason we stay stuck in the same old same old. Staying in the same old same old is fine if we are enjoying it, but not so much fun if we are struggling.

So what are we multiplying so it becomes greater than our Resistance to change?

D: is for Dissatisfaction. We need to feel a certain level of dissatisfaction before we are prepared to move outside our comfort zone. Getting out of stuck usually means moving outside our comfort zone. Often we numb uncomfortable feelings down with working too hard, blocking our feelings, negating our experiences or just the odd glass or 6 of wine.  Any and all distractions can be useful to keep ourselves from actually seeing what in our life is not working. Letting yourself feel dissatisfied is a core component of shifting from here to there.

V: is for Vision. We need to have a vision of where we want to go. Often I hear people say they have no idea of what they want. This is actually not true. It is just clouded too much to see. Often we may not know what it looks like but we do know how it could feel. Once we start to explore our dissatisfaction small glimmers of what could be start to emerge. It is true that sometimes it is just impossible to see what could be, often because if we were shown we would just not believe we could do it. Letting yourself know what you know, no matter how fleeting, and owning it is a start. Be brave and write it down. No one has to see it but you!  

F: we need to define what the first steps toward our goal is. Without taking steps, ie action in the outer world, nothing will happen. How many ‘gonna’ stories have we all listened to –  and created. These are fine fantasies however they will not create reality (‘Secret’ or not) without solid steps. Sometimes even taking the so called wrong step will take us in the right direction. Take a step that feels right and then evaluate. Try using your senses, not necessarily your head. It can create too many a limiting stories.

Remember this equation. D X V X F > R  Your Dissatisfaction multiplied by your Vision multiplied by those First steps must be greater than your Resistance.

And you will shift your Resistance.

I ask you : How can you apply this to change something in your life that you have been struggling with?