January 20th, 2012

Happy Year of the Dragon everyone! Another New Year opportunity to look at where you are and where you might like to head towards. This booster is one my Create your Year Workshop participants always love – Maori Drawing.

I published this as my first blog, go the this link for part one. Take your time and do the process.

Once you are complete go to part two. to discover what your subconscious is telling you. Many find much hidden gold in this process to use to inform your goals, intentions and growth for the year.

Enjoy!
Gay

 

This article was written by Gay Landeta with the intention of helping you to Create the Life you Want to Live! All rights reserved 2011.

January 14th, 2012

I have a confession to make. I have been suffering from inertia for a few weeks now.

I thought it was just end of year tiredness or boredom or something but I have to accept it is just old fashioned inertia. Can’t be stuffed. All I feel like doing is sleeping! True, I have had early mornings with puppy plus puppy responsibility on top of work so rest is welcome but I do have a couple of things that must get done and they haven’t been. Sleep keeps claiming me!

Don’t get me wrong, sleeping is great and with our super busy life often taking time out, doing nothing and just chilling is not only essential to our physical health but to our emotional and spiritual as well. But sometimes slowing down grinds us to a halt and our resistance to move seems insurmountable. Inertia takes over.

Inertia is not useful and is considered to be one of the 7 blocks on our spiritual path. It is a way we hide from our trueself. Being able to see what needs to happen – not what should, nor what we want but what NEEDS to happen  – and then taking action is fundamental to our growth.

But sometimes shifting forward feels almost impossible. Here are my top tips in identifying and overcoming the dreaded inertia. Work towards answering yes to each before proceeding to the next step. Read the rest of this entry »

Inner leadership.
What does that mean? These days, most people strive to be self reliant and independent.

Surely once we have mastery over ourselves we have inner leadership?

Perhaps not. Inner leadership is not so much about managing ourselves as leading ourselves.

Managing is about doing what is necessary today to get to where you want to go.

Leading is about creating the vision.

Inner leadership is about finding that quiet place within, amongst all the clamouring of all the voices and determining what it is that you are really wanting. Once found and aligned with it creates a sense of peace in our life that can be sorely wanted in these crazy times.

Outer Leadership, on the other hand, is about being driven by what others think, what others want for us, what we think we should have or think or do. Essentially Outer Leadership is about being driven by factors that are external to who we truly are and what our purpose for being is.

If you are finding yourself focusing on these external things you have just been distracted. Our true purpose is very unlikely to be a owning a nice new car, or a lovely house. Those things could be seen as an important part of managing and supporting ourselves so we can achieve our vision and be living our purpose, but they are not the purpose itself.

Getting clear about the big picture and separating it away from the management of our lives can stop us limiting ourselves by our ego desires. We can stop trying to figure out how to make something happen and just allow our-self to dream. Dreams can create reality when they align with our highest.

In trying to figure out what our highest callings we have to let go of our cultural and family conditioning. Our society puts a myriad of expectations on us including a picture of success equals a certain type of job, a flash car, a big house, the requisite number of happy children and exotic holidays. It is oh so easy to buy into this and use these as ideals that lead us.

Instead to get to our True Vision we need to allow ourself to dream of what is important to us in our heart of hearts. And then step up to make them happen.

Lets play….

Which of these values are important to you and why:

Authenticity

Serenity

Compassion

Service

Just is

Beauty

Right Relationships

Truth

Joy

Gratitude

(you can add in any more you can think of)

Now, when you start dreaming of what your purpose may be gather the values that you hold dear and see how they fit into that vision.

Or simply gather the values together and see how that looks in the bigger picture of your life. Start to manage yourself  to achieve more of that and you may find your purpose finds you.

 

This article was written by Gay Landeta with the intention of helping you to Create the Life you Want to Live! All rights reserved 2011.

November 10, 2011

This went out to my private clients last night, and I thought I might post it here as well just in case you keep in touch by RSS…. If you aren’t a client but want to stay in touch join me on facebook!

11:11:11  is coming up – a day strongly aspected with 11 symbology. In addition to the numerological significance (11 is said to be a master number) there has been much written about the 11:11 doorway which is part of the December 2012 mythology.  All of these dates and events are said to be opening us up to higher dimensions and better ways of being. Certainly I am seeing people working with major transformations right now in the clinic.   

We also have the added bonus of the 11th directly following the full moon (letting go!) that happens on the 10th.  

I feel that the interesting thing about any of these dates is the impact that we can have if we work with them…. Research proves that only 1% of people are needed to change anything…. Imagine how many people will be meditating for peace on the 11th or doing something spiritually enlightening? I would invite you to join by spending a few minutes in silence at 11:11. If that won’t work how about stopping sometime at 11 minutes after the hour – you will be joining others somewhere in the world! Another neat idea could be to spend a few moments each hour at 11 minutes past! Just set your phone or watch for hourly reminders.

Another very cool thing that is taking place on 11:11:11 is the media event One Day on Earth, where people all over the world will record their human experience over a 24-hour period. This event will enable them to contribute their voice to the second annual global day of media creation. You can be part of it by signing up at One Day on Earth

I just got a new bff – a puppy (you probably know if you have friended me on facebook or joined my like page https://www.facebook.com/Createthelifeyouwanttolive ) … she’s been on my wish list for a few years and she just waltzed into my life… watching her has reminded me of the wisdom of just taking life a wiggle at a time!

Whatever you do Friday – or every day – enjoy it a wiggle at a time!

Wishing you all the best, 
Gay

PS just been organising dates and others things including :

v  Create your Year dates for January
v  Rhythmic Movement dates for February
v  Create your Business – Laser Mentoring sessions
v  Online shop open – bonus options …
v  And Create birthday celebration …
v  And more….
 
If you can’t wait email me for info, otherwise expect the next ‘What’s On’ to arrive soon – I just wanted this heads up out before the 11th!
… and please, if you no longer wish to hear from me (needs do change) just let me know by replying with unsubscribe. Thanks!

 

What does Astrology, an ancient tool used for insight and guidance; Meditation used to create calm and develop focus and Psychological Profiling, modern systems used to understand human behavior and help develop potential (one of the best known would be Myers Briggs) all have in common?

They help us to develop the quality of observation of the self.

The ability to observe the self in a detached yet connected manner is an important step in our evolution as a human being. The ability to observe the emotions, thoughts, feelings and sensations of our daily existence is something that can be cultivated to help us become less attached to our daily dramas and less caught in the stories of our life.

In spiritual traditions meditation is used to learn to observe the self. The process of regularly sitting with the thoughts, feelings and sensations that drive our human existence without being caught within them creates a calm yet focused mind and allows us ultimately to access more of our intelligence. Research shows regular meditators have a more developed frontal lobe, the area of critical reasoning, than non meditators.

How can astrology and profiling be used in a similar manner? By using the information attained to help to detach from the drama of life instead of excuse our behaviour.

The more we step away from the situation, the clearer the best and most appropriate response becomes. Offering advice or support to a friend is often easier than giving it to ourselves because we have a bigger perspective and less emotional attachment to the outcome.

As we become the observer we start to develop a bigger perspective. As we learn more about ourselves, through a profiling system, astrology or similar, we see patterns emerge of who we are and can learn to navigate our behaviour in a different manner.

For example in my life I do my best to focus my perfectionism to aim for excellence while listening for the clues that I am falling into nit picking. My stubbornness supports the persistence that is needed to be a successful business owner and I am getting better at seeing when I am hitting my head against the concrete wall! And my sensitivity helps me to tune in to others but learning how to manage it and see the bigger picture was the key to being able to work effectively and not become overwhelmed.

So, while I don’t agree with becoming slavish about anything, I do suggest experiment with using any information that rings true with you, whether astrology or numerology or Disc profiling or Myers Briggs to help you to see yourself from a greater perspective and refocus out dated behaviour into a new and improved version.

This month I invite you to explore some patterns of behaviour. Sit with them, perhaps in meditation, and observe how they impact in your life, positively and negatively.

Once you see clearly how this is impacting start to make some conscious choices of other, more appropriate ways of reacting.

 

This article was written by Gay Landeta with the intention of helping you to Create the Life you Want to Live! All rights reserved 2011.

October 5th, 2011

I have been musing today on how we can be so attached to often quite inconsequential ups and downs, especially when we are feeling a little vulnerable. And, let us be honest, even if they are incredibly impacting, dwelling on them and allowing them to take us for a ride is not usually very helpful at all.

Usually I can take a bit of emotional rough and tumble fairly well these days. I can see it for what it is, a momentary ruffling of the waves of the mind, but diving down deep it is still the same calm, still space.

But sometimes, on days that I am a little more agitated or the waves are in a little bit of a sensitive area, it is a little less easy. Those days really suck!

Years ago I had a solid daily meditation practice. It help a lot with having two wild boys and a business to run at home. something happened though and it fell through the cracks. I decided to become more mindful each day. Live my practice instead of keeping it in one place.

That was great, and I had lots of other tools with Brain Gym and kinesiology… but I think I really need both to stay sane these days! So I am working on creating a new daily practice. Every morning.

I reckon recreating a practice is more difficult than creating one in the first place. But I know the rewards so I will do my best to stick to it.

By Christmas it should be a regular feature in my life once again, and I will be doing a bit more duck diving those big waves! I hope.

Here’s to duck diving the emotional sea!

Cheers, Gay

 

 

September 14th, 2011

this booster is from my last eZine… Hope you find some gold in it!

Passion and purpose. When these are missing life loses its meaning.Purpose may be difficult to find but it will find us – when we become passionate about life. This booster helps you to explore how you can develop more passion in your relationships and your life. Something we all want!

This will be a bit of a process… You might like to grab a pen and paper, a cup of tea and get comfy.

First think about times you feel passion. This may be while you are being creative, at work, with your kids, while being intimate with your partner, etc. Identify a passionate time for you.

Now identify your most dispassionate or lost place in your life. Consider some of the negative things you tell yourself. Perhaps I should be doing something else (ie this is the wrong place for me) or I don’t know what to do next (Ie I feel lost and have no direction) or I should do this next (Ie according to someone else, society or my culture I have to do X next), etc. Have a listen to all the negative and limiting language you use, much of it to try to keep you keeping on or taking the next step you think you SHOULD take.

Next imagine if you used those same phrases at your passionate time. If you tried to tell yourself what you should be doing next while playing with the kids, second guessing your next move in your next intimate encounter, or feeling hopeless and lost while involved in creating something. It just would not work. Same as in that part of your life.

Your challenge? Recognize the limits you put on yourself through language and practice reframing those negative phrases. Eg it is absolutely fine to be doing this right now or I will know what to do next when the time is right or Who knows what the next thing is to do, I will open myself up and just see.

Have fun!
Gay
PS if the old patterns are too hard to break come in for a session, let’s see what blocks we can break!

 

This article was written by Gay Landeta with the intention of helping you to Create the Life you Want to Live! All rights reserved 2011.

The urge to bond with another human being is almost impossible to ignore. And let’s face it – that is how the human species has survived! But the reality of making a relationship work, especially long term, is another thing altogether.

Neuroscience shows us that the stages of relationship are governed by chemicals in the brain. We start with good old lust, this is when we draw on our basic sex hormones, Estrogen and Testosterone.

We move onto attraction which requires appropriate levels of Dopamine (involved in addiction also!) Seratonin and  Adrenaline.  (think about that racing heart when s/he rings!)

Finally we have the attachment stage which is the area that is still not well understood. It seems Oxytocin, the mother or cuddle hormone, appears to be the lead hormone here.

No wonder, once in a relationship, we can lose our best intentions and become caught. With all those hormones and chemicals running rampant it can be difficult to stay connected to reality, especially if we also believe the myths of relationship. We end up bound into something that might not be the best for us – or our mate.

So before starting out in a relationship think about some of the myths of relationship, bust them and get set up for success, here are 5 that came to my mind ….. Read the rest of this entry »

Shifting from here to there, how to get over the chasm 

by Gay Landeta

D X V X F > R

Commit this formula to memory! Why? Because this formula, sometimes called the Gleicher formula, holds the key to changing what is not working in your life. Once you understand what each component means and how they work together you can use it as fuel instead of sabotage when moving forward. It can become as easy as 2+2=4!

 The equation : Remember maths, I know you, too, were probably looking out the window so a quick reminder,  < or > equals greater than or less than. The point of the arrow is the smaller part of the equation. The other  calculation to recall is multiplication: when we multiply (X) we multiply the effect, not just add up the components.

D X V X F > R

R is for Resistance. Resistance is the big block to change. Getting stuck and not moving because of our fears is one of the biggest reason we stay stuck in the same old same old. Staying in the same old same old is fine if we are enjoying it, but not so much fun if we are struggling.

So what are we multiplying so it becomes greater than our Resistance to change?

D: is for Dissatisfaction. We need to feel a certain level of dissatisfaction before we are prepared to move outside our comfort zone. Getting out of stuck usually means moving outside our comfort zone. Often we numb uncomfortable feelings down with working too hard, blocking our feelings, negating our experiences or just the odd glass or 6 of wine.  Any and all distractions can be useful to keep ourselves from actually seeing what in our life is not working. Letting yourself feel dissatisfied is a core component of shifting from here to there.

V: is for Vision. We need to have a vision of where we want to go. Often I hear people say they have no idea of what they want. This is actually not true. It is just clouded too much to see. Often we may not know what it looks like but we do know how it could feel. Once we start to explore our dissatisfaction small glimmers of what could be start to emerge. It is true that sometimes it is just impossible to see what could be, often because if we were shown we would just not believe we could do it. Letting yourself know what you know, no matter how fleeting, and owning it is a start. Be brave and write it down. No one has to see it but you!  

F: we need to define what the first steps toward our goal is. Without taking steps, ie action in the outer world, nothing will happen. How many ‘gonna’ stories have we all listened to –  and created. These are fine fantasies however they will not create reality (‘Secret’ or not) without solid steps. Sometimes even taking the so called wrong step will take us in the right direction. Take a step that feels right and then evaluate. Try using your senses, not necessarily your head. It can create too many a limiting stories.

Remember this equation. D X V X F > R  Your Dissatisfaction multiplied by your Vision multiplied by those First steps must be greater than your Resistance.

So do not be afraid to feel your Dissatisfaction.

Nor stop yourself from dreaming your Vision.

And make sure you try something, anything as a First step.

And you will shift your Resistance.

I ask you : How can you apply this to change something in your life that you have been struggling with?

May 1st, 2011

The clinic has been so busy lately, I once again have been a little remiss in keeping this up to date…..

Here is my aticle from this months ezine, i hope you enjoy it.

Feeling Stuck and Disconnected? Try these Strategies for Whole-Hearted Living

by Gay Landeta

The human brain has long mystified science by defying all the usual medical mechanical understandings. Finally, now, after years of observation and experimentation we are beginning to unearth its workings.

Early work identified the brain as consisting of two sides, the right and left brain, with the creative processes attributed to the right and the more logical and rational processes delegated to the left lobes. The right and left brain theory is one that most of us have heard however the model now emerging, as a result of the latest research, is of a much more complex and holographic brain. 

The latest findings in the field of neural plasticity show a multi-faceted construction that is capable of growing and changing during our entire lifetime. This ability to grow and change gives enormous hope to anyone suffering from brain injury of any type or, more importantly, for anyone who just wants to use their brain more effectively. However, this ability to change is also our undoing because it appears our brain records new learning, quite indiscriminately, indelibly into our neural links.

It really does seem that the old adage use it or lose it is absolutely true, in every way! So how can we develop a better ability to use the skills our brain offers us? And how can we lose that which we no longer want or need? Read the rest of this entry »