Whatever we do, whatever we experience, the good, the bad and the indifferent is absolutely perfect for us right now. By taking responsibility, not blaming nor feeling guilty, for our life choices we open to endless opportunities. Sometimes we will explore ways to change and grow and at other times we will just sit quietly - or noisily - with it. Regardless, in the end the goal is to enjoy the process and choose our own unique path to joy. - Gay Landeta
“Live like it matters, know that it doesn’t” - Paul Dennision
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So question yourself why you think life will end if you allow the Universe to be in charge?! And why you wouldn’t have material stuff? Look through the glamour and illusion and see reality…. No one says you have to live from a begging bowl! Perhaps it is time to let go of the little will of the personality that is blocking you from your highest potential and keeping your perspective of life small by insisting that you achieve a To-Do list in life instead of just allowing it to unfold…………
An old Cherokee is teaching his grandson about life. “A fight is going on inside me,” he said to the boy.
“It is a terrible fight and it is between two wolves. One is evil - he is anger, envy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego.”
He continued, “The other is good – he is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion, and faith. The same fight is going on inside you – and inside every other person, too.”
The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather, “Which wolf will win?”
The old Cherokee simply replied, “The one you feed.”
Back in ’98 I spent 10 days in a leadership program.
We went through many processes to break our preconceived notions of possibility including walking on glass, karate chopping boards and bending lengths of reinforced steel but the most interesting was the fire-walking experience.
This was not the Tony Robins process using NLP to change your thoughts, instead we spent time raising our energy until it met the fire and we walked it. We did it several times so proved time after time that it actually was possible; and what the mind believed, that the fire was too hot to walk on, was just not true.
The process involved building a circular fire of about 4 or so metres in radius. It would burn all day until it was red hot. We then stood in silence around it, connecting to the inner strength and power that we had been nurturing and building during our stay.
I am a bit of a cynic so my mind thought long and hard about what was happening, considered that perhaps the fire was not as hot as I thought, or maybe the ashes were protecting our feet, or the wood was a certain type… My mind tried to worm its way out of breaking down its preconceived notions in every way possible but in the end I had to believe the reality – the fire was damn hot and we walked it. Regardless of whether we used Iron Bark or Pine, those coals were red hot and could easily cook a very nice steak.
The really special thing I learnt though, was about the moment of certainty. As we stood around the fire and built the energy, a moment would come when the fire welcomed us. I still remember standing there, feeling the heat of the fire on my face (glad I was wearing cotton because the heat from the fire would have melted synthetics!). As I gathered myself, centered and feeling into the fire a window opened. The fire was no longer hot and at that moment you had to back yourself and your intention to walk the fire and just do it.
If you hesitated the window closed and the fire was too hot to bear once again. It was an individual process. No one could help you know when to go. We could be encouraged and offered processes to build the energy but only the individual could know when the right time was for them to walk. Walk before you were ready and you got burnt. As my friend found out.
I do think this is analogy is true in any situation. There is a moment when something can happen easily. A window opens and something that felt too hard a moment before suddenly becomes simple. The trick is to recognize that moment.
The big question is, how can we recognize and be open to that moment and all the limitless possibilities it offers?
First, suspend belief. Our brain is designed to help us stay safe. That means it is very good at learning from the past, identifying potential danger and keeping us well away from it.
To overcome this we must recognize that what our mind tells us is just a construct and may not, in fact, be true. Or at least it may not be true in every situation. So, in the fire-walking situation my belief that fire is hot and burns when you touch it, learnt very specifically as a toddler determined to put my hand onto the hot stove and reinforced many times over the years, had to be suspended. I had to be open to the possibility that what my brain and all my instincts were telling me was not necessarily true. That was the only way I could experience walking on fire.
Secondly, know you can do it. Once you have suspended your belief you must do the internal work to KNOW without a doubt that you can do this. This is the primary work of manifesting anything.
Third, be open to taking the step when the moment arises. You must be courageous and take the step as it presents itself. But not before you are ready or you might get burnt! How can you tell? Well, you wait until you feel the window open.
You also need to be open to knowing if the step is at the right time. If you have misjudged then you may need to step back and build more energy. It is fortunate that we are rarely actually walking on fire so with practice in less dangerous circumstances you begin to identify what it feels like when the window opens. You will then be ready for the fire!
Fourth, make sure you know how to centre and remain centered no matter what the fire looks like. Walking through the fire there is a moment when you are half way across, if you stop to consider what you are doing, or be amazed, it is very likely those feet will burn. If you have stepped forward and decided to walk you must back yourself, back your decision and keep moving, walking with confidence, remaining centered.
By mastering working with the open window you no longer need to be constrained by your limited mind. Nice.
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This tale has been retold many, many times like any good folktale.
Here are a couple of versions….
A man named Sei Weng owned a beautiful mare which was praised far and wide. One day this beautiful horse disappeared. The people of his village offered sympathy to Sei Weng for his great misfortune. Sei Weng said simply, “That’s the way it is.”
A few days later the lost mare returned, followed by a beautiful wild stallion. The village congratulated Sei Weng for his good fortune. He said, “That’s the way it is.”
Some time later, Sei Weng’s only son, while riding the stallion, fell off and broke his leg. The village people once again expressed their sympathy at Sei Weng’s misfortune. Sei Weng again said, “That’s the way it is.”
Soon thereafter, war broke out and all the young men of the village except Sei Weng’s lame son were drafted and were killed in battle. The village people were amazed as Sei Weng’s good luck. His son was the only young man left alive in the village. But Sei Weng kept his same attitude: despite all the turmoil, gains and losses, he gave the same reply, “That’s the way it is.”
Chin-Ning Chu, in “The Asian Mind Game: unlocking the hidden agenda of the Asian business culture — a westerner’s survival manual,” New York:Macmillan Publishing Company(1991)
and another
A man who lived on the northern frontier of China was skilled in interpreting events. One day, for no reason, his horse ran away to the nomads across the border. Everyone tried to console him, but his father said, “What makes you so sure this isn’t a blessing?”
Some months later his horse returned, bringing a splendid nomad stallion. Everyone congratulated him, but his father said, “What makes you so sure this isn’t a disaster?”
Their household was richer by a fine horse, which his son loved to ride. One day he fell and broke his hip. Everyone tried to console him, but his father said, “What makes you so sure this isn’t a blessing?”
A year later the nomads came in force across the border, and every able-bodied man took his bow and went into battle. The Chinese frontiersmen lost nine of every ten men. Only because the son was lame did the father and son survive to take care of each other.
Truly, blessing turns to disaster, and disaster to blessing: the changes have no end, nor can the mystery be fathomed.
The Lost Horse, Chinese Folktale. As told by Ellen J. Langer, in” The Power of Mindful Learning,” Reading, Mass: Addison-Wesley (1997).
This article was written by Gay Landeta with the intention of helping you to Create the Life you Want to Live! All rights reserved 2011.
Inner leadership.
What does that mean? These days, most people strive to be self reliant and independent.
Surely once we have mastery over ourselves we have inner leadership?
Perhaps not. Inner leadership is not so much about managing ourselves as leading ourselves.
Managing is about doing what is necessary today to get to where you want to go.
Leading is about creating the vision.
Inner leadership is about finding that quiet place within, amongst all the clamouring of all the voices and determining what it is that you are really wanting. Once found and aligned with it creates a sense of peace in our life that can be sorely wanted in these crazy times.
Outer Leadership, on the other hand, is about being driven by what others think, what others want for us, what we think we should have or think or do. Essentially Outer Leadership is about being driven by factors that are external to who we truly are and what our purpose for being is.
If you are finding yourself focusing on these external things you have just been distracted. Our true purpose is very unlikely to be a owning a nice new car, or a lovely house. Those things could be seen as an important part of managing and supporting ourselves so we can achieve our vision and be living our purpose, but they are not the purpose itself.
Getting clear about the big picture and separating it away from the management of our lives can stop us limiting ourselves by our ego desires. We can stop trying to figure out how to make something happen and just allow our-self to dream. Dreams can create reality when they align with our highest.
In trying to figure out what our highest callings we have to let go of our cultural and family conditioning. Our society puts a myriad of expectations on us including a picture of success equals a certain type of job, a flash car, a big house, the requisite number of happy children and exotic holidays. It is oh so easy to buy into this and use these as ideals that lead us.
Instead to get to our True Vision we need to allow ourself to dream of what is important to us in our heart of hearts. And then step up to make them happen.
Lets play….
Which of these values are important to you and why:
Authenticity
Serenity
Compassion
Service
Just is
Beauty
Right Relationships
Truth
Joy
Gratitude
(you can add in any more you can think of)
Now, when you start dreaming of what your purpose may be gather the values that you hold dear and see how they fit into that vision.
Or simply gather the values together and see how that looks in the bigger picture of your life. Start to manage yourself to achieve more of that and you may find your purpose finds you.
This article was written by Gay Landeta with the intention of helping you to Create the Life you Want to Live! All rights reserved 2011.
Another month slides by…. the essence (and theme!) for the month just emerged!
Deep Wisdom
Be fully present and connected to the deep wisdom of within.
Trust all that is.
Fall into the place of peace, calm and inner conviction
And embrace the courage of expression of the Self.
I am really looking forward to this. I am finding such interesting synchronicity with the essences… I found last month’s essence Balanced Divine Strength incredibly supportive during the floods. I remember taking it one day (maybe the Wednesday?) and absolutely gathering the strength to trust the process of the day…..
Anyway, those in the Club will get it early next week! If you want to know more about the club click here
….Now I’m going to scrap that little chunk of crap off the bottom of my
soul and fling it onto my pile of past mistakes and carry on with my life….. Bill Harding
This email came from my Action Plan Coach Colleague and friend Geoff Kelly, I think it sets a perfect note at this time of year when we are reflecting on the past and beginning to be ready for the new and thought you might enjoy it!
I wish you a wonderful and refreshing holiday break and an joyous and abundant New Year!
Warmest regards,
Gay
With Gratitude and Best Wishes…
About 10 years ago I heard some words that changed my life from Canadian achievement scholar and expert Bob Proctor:
“When you set goals, don’t worry so much that you’ll need to live up to them. Focus on setting goals that are worthy of you. Make them goals you would give your life for…because whatever you are doing now, you are expending your life on it.”
I find it helpful to collect and reflect on the wisdom of people who have achieved much in life. I’ve attached a brief selection of these on the next few pages, as you might enjoy reflecting on them too as you prepare for next year. These are people and words that have changed lives and changed history. If we reflect and act on their wisdom, we can expect no less of ourselves. I hope you and your family have a safe and happy Christmas and New Year, and that you make 2010 your most fabulous year yet. I’ll look forward to sharing that journey.
Best wishes
Geoff Kelly
“If you want to know your past – look into your present conditions. If you want to know your future – look into
your present actions.”
Chinese Proverb
“Imagination is more important than knowledge. Knowledge is limited. Imagination encircles the world.”
Albert Einstein, 1879-1955, Physicist
“Treat people as if they were what they ought to be, and you help them to become what they are capable of
being.”
Johann Wolfgang von Goethe 1749-1832, German Poet and Novelist
“You don’t have to see the whole staircase, just take the first step.”
Martin Luther King, Jr., 1929-1968, Civil Rights Leader
“You are what you repeatedly do. Excellence is not an event – it is a habit.”
Aristotle, 384-322 BC, Greek Philosopher and Scientist
“Let us become the change we seek in this world.”
Mohandas Gandhi
“What the mind can conceive and believe, it can achieve.”
Napoleon Hill, Author of Think and Grow Rich
“The first step to becoming is to will it.”
Mother Teresa
“Start by doing what’s necessary, then what’s possible, and suddenly you are doing the impossible.”
St. Francis of Assisi 1181-1226, Founder of the Franciscan Order
“Concentrate all your thoughts upon the work at hand. The sun’s rays do not burn until brought to a focus.”
Alexander Graham Bell, 1847-1922, Inventor
“It is no use saying, “We are doing our best.” You have got to succeed in doing what is necessary.”
Winston Churchill, British statesman
“The most difficult thing is the decision to act; the rest is merely tenacity. The fears are paper tigers. You can do
anything you decide to do.”
Amelia Earhart, Aviator
“I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never
forget how you made them feel.”
Maya Angelou, Poet
“We must have perseverance and above all confidence in ourselves. We must believe that we are gifted for
something and that this thing must be attained.”
Marie Curie, Physicist
“The most powerful weapon on earth is the human soul on fire.”
Ferdinand Foch, Military strategist
Remembering that you are going to die is the best way I know to avoid the trap of thinking you have something to
lose. You are naked. There is no reason not to follow your heart.”
Steve Jobs, CEO Apple Computers
What I will do to make 2010 my best year ever:
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OK folks – this is the week for change! Well – at least an auspicious one from a astrology perspective – resist and perish is one way it could be seen…. as Babula Clemens, a well respected Brisbane Astrology teacher comments, and I quote… “On September 15th, we have the 3rd of a series of 5 dynamic oppositions between Saturn, planet of the old, and Uranus, planet of the new. This opposition began in November 2008 (when Obama was elected), continues through to the end of July 2010 and is a major factor in the huge changes we are all experiencing. The Shift is upon us”….
Pus we have a new moon (new start) at the end of the week – powerful stuff for Virgoans and also Pisceans or those with strong Virgo/Piscean influences…
