Gay Landeta, Create the Life you Want to Live

Booster : Walking

Gay — Sat, 19 May 2012 03:38:33 +0000

May 19th, 2012

If you follow my Facebook page you know I have been doing daily tips on how to improve your brain.

Number one thing that comes up over and over - 30 minutes of walking every day, together with a good daily multi vitamin and fish oil, helps the brain in a myriad of ways. Especially if you have the dreaded gene for Alzheimer’s.

Alzheimer’s appears to start 30 or more years before it becomes a problem (that amazed me!). So start walking today.

….and the weather is so beautiful right now that it is just a glorious activity.

Enjoy!

Gay

Create Your Business – Facebook Timeline

Gay — Thu, 17 May 2012 03:44:36 +0000

Do you Facebook for your business?
Many people say you can’t have a business without it these day.

I think, if it fits into your marketing strategy and you know exactly why you are doing it, you can get good or even great results. However you do need to follow a few guidelines and many of the old ones are gone with the new Timeline.

I am absolutely no expert, my Facebook page, and social media in general, is still a big play space for me but I have read heaps and talked to some experts about these recent changes.

Here are a few gems to work with:

1. Your Facebook timeline fan page is now a story about you and your business. Make sure the story you are telling offers an accurate picture as well as doing the job you want it to. Do that by using the milestones feature and hiding the stories that are not relevant.

2. Make sure the picture at the top of the page demonstrates your work visually in some-way.

3. Review how your page looks to visitors often and make sure it is interesting.

4. Listen to how you sound in your posts. Are you portraying your business effectively? Be careful about complaining or writing too many posts that are the same. It gets boring for your likers.

5. Don’t put in too many stories at one time, you want your likers to be interested in what you say, not overwhelmed.

6. You can use social media sharing tools like Hoot Suite to post items at regular intervals, even to multiple SM accounts.

7. Back link to your services when relevant, no more than once every three or four posts though unless your page is only for the final stage of your marketing strategy, ie an invitation to buy.

8. You can still use apps to offer incentives to like even though you can’t have a landing page anymore. In fact there are heaps of apps for many purposes, think about which ones might be useful for your page.

9. Remember that Facebook is very much about building community so share and encourage sharing!

Love to hear your insights. You can join me on my facebook page Facebook Like Page : ))))

And if you find you are having trouble with your marketing strategy I do offer a free session where we can talk about what you are doing. I love seeing my clients get really clear about their business, their marketing strategy, know exactly what to do and build a reliable successful business.

Call me for more info on 0418 795 135. Or book in for a free strategy session by calling my assistant, Korryn on 07 3102 5831.

All the best!

Gay

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7 Patterns that Can Stop You in Your Tracks!

Gay — Tue, 15 May 2012 03:35:19 +0000

May 15th, 2012

lots of great responses from my eZine article last month…….. hope you enjoy it!

Gay

These 7 patterns can absolutely stop us in our tracks.

The first step is to identify what is stopping you, then next to break the pattern.

The first and the one that can keep us on the brink of our next step (sometimes for years) is called the Dweller on the Threshold’ This is all about being stuck. When we are in this pattern we become caught in beliefs like: ‘Something or someone is preventing me from moving forward’ or ‘Nothing feels possible’. When we are stuck we are in the way of our own self, our little personality is stopping the True Self from stepping forward.

To move out of this position we have to commit to the bigger plan of our life. It is time to stop being small and start trusting in our True Self and the journey we are on.
The next pattern is Illusion. In this pattern we are cheating ourself and are caught in the illusion of reality instead of seeing reality. We are fooling ourself, taking action without really knowing what we are doing, following blindly and judging instead of using our powers of discernment. We become identified with an idea, an opinion and information instead of being clear about what we want, being honest about where we are and making a choice based on truth.
In Uncertainty fear becomes our controller. Instead we need to step up and take responsibility and dare to see. We must develop the courage to use our inner senses and break old patterns such as fight or flight and a lack of decision and action.
The pattern of Inertia is apparent when we are hiding from our self, becoming too busy or procrastinating. The route out of this pattern is to simply see the essentials and act accordingly. We can choose to do it with pain (moaning and groaning) or with goodwill – my suggestion is to use the goodwill track! Feels much easier.
The next pattern is Blindness. When we are caught in this trap we are not daring to see. We become overly identified with our beliefs. It looks right not to do things and we become stuck in ’I am right, I know it’ (in otherwise we are closed). The way out is to be open, see ourself face to face. We can then free ourself from telling ourselves those little lies based on beliefs that were created to keep us small.
I love Glamour, well not really, but it does make me laugh. This always reminds me of the teen ager who spends hours in front of the mirror, forgetting about everyone else. This is the narcissistic place, we fall in love with ourself which (when overdone) ultimately creates greater separation with others. We miss seeing others light and instead always put ourselves first. The way out of this is to develop altruistic thinking and a service mentality so we can enjoy allowing others to go first.
And finally we have Ignorance. This is the really tricky one because we simply don’t know what we don’t know. We assume we already know all that we need and we have not opened up to the ability to sense our Inner Wisdom that will alert us to the fact that something is missing.
The reality is we will all fall into these holes more than once in our journey, but recognizing them is the first step out.
If you want any help stepping out of your hole kinesiology can help! Feel free to give me a ring 0418 795 135.

All the best, Gay

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Grow your Brain Tips!

Gay — Thu, 22 Mar 2012 06:52:20 +0000

March 22nd, 2012

I love the new neuro plasticity research and I am currently posting a tip a day to grow your brain on my Facebook page… https://www.facebook.com/Createthelifeyouwanttolive like my page and get it in your newsfeed!

If you are not a Facebooker then I will be post them here (I just have been through a techno challenging time and this blog got a little neglected….)

enjoy! Gay

Left brain right brain whole brain entrepreneurs

Gay — Wed, 21 Mar 2012 06:52:05 +0000

Many entrepreneurs by nature are solo flyers and can be reluctant to share their ideas with others.

They may feel people will not support them or even understand their big ideas, they may be protective of their self esteem and concerned that others may not think they are capable of it. They may fear someone may steal their idea or they might just have difficulty expressing the big idea they have.

This type of thinking can be considered to be hind brain survival tactics. The hind brain or brain stem is the oldest part of our brain and uses its ability to sense fear to survive.

On the other hand some entrepreneurs are big mouths, they shoot off their mouth about every great idea they have and gain a reputation for being gonna’s not doers. Have you heard of the right brain? The neo-cortex is divided up into the left and the right hemispheres and the right hemisphere is largely responsible for big picture ideas. Unfortunately it is not so good at making things happen.

Some entrepreneurs can be very bad delegators, feeling that if they don’t do it, it won’t be done right. Details and bean counting in general tend to be the left hemispheres job. For these folk there are often far too many jobs on the to do list that must be completed (perfectly) to leave time for anything meaningful.

Finally, many entrepreneurs in the service industry have enormous difficulty dealing with the feelings that arise through competition. The feeling of competition is the result of comparing our self to another, something we have been doing since time immemorial. Comparison, relationships, and connections with others are all part of the mammalian mid-brain’s job.

So what is happening with these entrepreneurs? What is missing in the picture? The part of the brain that will coordinate all these areas to make considered and often inspired decisions and take the action that is needed to make it happen. The frontal lobes. This higher functioning part of the brain relies on good foundations, a whole brain, to function.

What does a whole brain mean? It means the ability to use all the aforementioned processes without getting stuck in one or another process. To stay open and interested instead of closed, stressed and switched off.

Once our brain is operating in whole-brain mode the neo-cortex can develop it’s big ideas and the processes to make it happen, the mammalian brain can develop connections and the instinctual hind brain can warn you of real danger, perhaps a ‘shark’ in the water.

Great ideas emerge and an appropriate Action Plan can be developed and executed. You can use that gut instinct to find the right contacts to develop, not hinder, your growth. Synchronicity and success flows.

Tip: this is when your self-care list is essential.

You must know what your non stressed base line feels like so you can identify when you are out of whack BEFORE it affects your decision making.

You also need to know what things enable you to find your open and relaxed perspective and how to do it quickly. Your list can include such things as going for a walk or a run, yoga, meditation, acupuncture, massage, etc. It can include creative pursuits such as drawing or cooking or things less worthy such as a hunk of chocolate, some TV, a gossip with a friend, time on facebook or surfing the net. Anything is fine as long as it helps the brain to shift gears and you end up feeling less stressed, and more relaxed and switched on.

Make your list and keep it handy!

Ensure you have some instant boosters on the list, for example PACE and Brain Gym movements were created to develop and reinforce whole-brained thinking.

If you are having trouble staying whole-brained in your business call me on 0418 795 135 to discuss your needs!

For more about this idea or you want to organize a free session to explore the effectiveness of what you are doing email me at create

Create Your Business – Tackling the to-do list

Gay — Fri, 03 Feb 2012 05:57:29 +0000

If your to-do list goes on for pages or is impossible to manage you may be coping with a ‘lifetrap’ of ‘unrelenting standards’. Lifetraps are ways we, as children, learn to cope with the interactions around us. They were necessary then but can become very limiting as we grow. There are 18 of them all together (see below for more info) but the that one might be a cause of that un-ending To Do list is ‘Unrelenting Standards’.

The trouble is with this life trap running we actually can’t see that what we expect is a little over the top. Or a lot!

Others may say to us that they don’t know how we do it but we keep on expecting more and more of ourselves. This can lead to trouble with time and efficiency. And relaxation. Obviously.

If you are recognising yourself here’s a way to start to undo this pattern and manage an unrelenting to-do list:

1. Go through your list and give each item a stress score out of 10 with 10 being major meltdown material. Now, looking at the jobs that are over 5/10 stress – can you break any of them down into smaller jobs to cut down the stress?

2. Try to keep all jobs in a day under 5/10. Make sure that when you look at the day – from a time perspective – it still stays under 5/10 stress for you.

3. Schedule in no more than one item over 5/10 stress in a day. If you suffer from anxiety this is really important – those items over 5/10 are often the source of anxiety and panic.

4. Check out your day and then cut your jobs by half. Like packing for a holiday – we all know how hard that is but it does leave room for new purchases. This will leave room for those unexpected happenings or maybe even stopping to eat lunch!

5. Keep this up for several weeks before upping the ante. None of the “yup, I can do that now, let’s do more” during the second week of this…. not only does it takes about 6 weeks to learn a new habit (the habit of reasonableness here!) but there can be other lifetraps fueling this need to keep on doing, for example fear of rejection or not pleasing others.

Give yourself time to relax into yourself and recognise that the little one within probably has a little bit of a wonky perspective on life and needs a little space to let it go.

And for more on these lifetraps have a look at the book “Reinventing Yourself” by Jeffrey Young and Janet Klosko.

Copyright © 2012 Gay Landeta. All Rights Reserved. This article may not be used without the prior written consent from the author. See below for more details…

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Cool Stuff from Create’s Facebook Page

Gay — Thu, 02 Feb 2012 02:02:39 +0000

February 2nd, 2012

Some cool stuff from Create’s Facebook Like Page…

Great article on learning from anger from http://Psychcentral.com, a great article resource. …Anger. It’s got a pretty bad reputation. And we’re often told what to do with it: be careful with it. Suppress it. Vent it. Override it. It’s like anger’s some kind of volatile, toxic force to be harnessed or defused ….But maybe there’s another way of looking at it altogether. Learning from Anger, Life Lessons Therapy

And another on how fear can morph into anger in our littlies (nothing worse than a raging 3 year old!) Psychcentral.com once again.….When children are afraid of something, adults often reassure them. Many kids are afraid of the dark or of monsters under the bed. This fear usually starts sometime around preschool and is a great way to delay bedtime or to keep a loved one hovering around the bedside…. When Fear looks like Anger

And speaking of kids, do you wonder sometimes about how much they use computers in school? Here is an article from NYTimes.com on a school in the Silicon Valley that DOESN’T use computers at all … ….LOS ALTOS, Calif. — The chief technology officer of eBay sends his children to a nine-classroom school here. So do employees of Silicon Valley giants like Google, Apple, Yahoo and Hewlett-Packard. But the school’s chief teaching tools are anything but high-tech: pens and paper, knitting needles and, occasionally, mud. Not a computer to be found……. Waldorf School in Silicon Valley

Research is showing stress is actually very debilitating to the brain, time to find simple ways to de -stress. What do you do to destress regularly? From healthland.time.com …Stress is an integral part of all of our lives, so much so, in fact, that we tend to shrug off our racing pulses and insomnia and constant angst as nothing unusual. But researchers say that even everyday stress can be leading to changes in the brain that make us more vulnerable to mental as well as social disorders… Stress Shrinks the Brain

Are you a perfectionist? Pride yourself on how much you know (and perhaps close you mind to new learning)? Or even just struggle with making mistakes. This article points out the major benefits of learning to take the risks required to learn. From Psychcentral.com …Individuals who believe they can learn from a mistake have a different brain reaction just after making an error than those who think intelligence is fixed…..Believing you can Learn from Mistakes helps you to recover from Mistakes

Anyone who knows me knows that I am very big on the concept of becoming the observer to our life. Here is a rather nice blog from Willspirit.com on developing a bigger perspective of life on this planet. …This afternoon my wife and I went canoeing on a reservoir here in the Sierra Foothills. Manmade lakes aren’t our first choice for boating, but today’s scenery was surprisingly lovely…. if our importance comes from association with the entire collective of people on earth, we should give thought to how we can benefit the human family. We should focus on the common good, and not our insistent but unimportant hungers…. Self Importance

Love this cool art project from LaughingSquid.com! ...Brooklyn-based Katie O’Beirne leaves disposable cameras attached to park benches with hemp twine and a note in New York City parks and waits for folks to take the bait…. New York Shots

Physical alignment and comfortable movement is the foundation to ease in life. Here is a simple stretch for the psoas (which is where we hold fear, so a good place to release!) AlignedandWell.com is an excellent resource for phsycial alignment and wellbeing.….The psoas is a muscle that, when functioning optimally makes the world glow just a little brighter. Sitting makes the psoas about three inches shorter than it should be. And when the psoas ain’t happy, the pelvic floor, the hips, and the spine aren’t happy either….. Simple Psoas Stretch

And also from AlignedandWell.com, 5 tips to help you towards a happier and more aligned body. …. here are a few (simple, inexpensive) suggestions to get you moving towards whole-body wellness today…. 5 Tips to Alignment

This is the final part on 5 Steps to Changing a Toxic Relationship. It has links to the other 3 articles and offers 5 tips to help you to shift away from toxic scripted patterns. Sometimes these relationships hide something beautiful, learning about them and getting both parties on board for change can transform them. Even if still collapses you can take the positive change to your next relationship. ( Links to the other 3 articles are within the article) from Psychcentral.com….In Part 1 of this series, we identified five toxic patterns partners get stuck in that activate one another’s protective-response patterns. In Part 2, we looked at the neuroscience beneath the emotional command circuits that destabilize each partner’s inner sense of emotional safety in relation to the other. We then touched on key factors that affect relational balance in Part 3, and considered the first step partners can take – cultivating awareness of one another’s triggers – to break free of the toxic patterns and restore balance in your lives.In this final post in the series, we continue with 4 remaining steps of 5 that, when mindfully applied, can help partners stop, change and move away from toxic scripted patterns that destabilize their sense of emotional safety, particularly in triggering situations that activate each partner’s preconditioned protective neural patterns……Toxic Couple Relationships

And now you know a little more about healing toxic relationships, how about learning how not to get there in the first place (from PsychCentral.com also). This article mentions two of my favourite books… …The other weekend, I read Gary Chapman’s The Five Love Languages, and I found it fascinating. (I have to confess: the book caught my attention because it’s always clustered near, and above, The Happiness Project on the New York Times bestseller list.)…Which Love Language Suits You and Your Partner?

How about incense as an antidepressant?! From sciencedaily.com. Religious leaders have contended for millennia that burning incense is good for the soul. Now, biologists have learned that it is good for our brains too…..What Monks Have Always Known

Back to busy life? Here is a good blog on tips for meal planning for beginners from the blog, StayathomeMum.net.au.
…It’s a fact of life that we have to eat, three meals per day in fact. Day in, day out for the rest of our lives….. A lot of people are scared of meal planning, or feel it’s too much like hard work. But it’s all about being organised…. Meal Planning for Beginners

And more from StayatHomeMum.net.au some great ideas for kids lunches (I reckon you can’t have too many quick lunchbox ideas!) …Kids at school need healthy food so that they can stay on top of their schoolwork and get the energy they need to concentrate for the whole day….. Healthy Lunch Box Ideas for Kids

Do you know a little one with a disability who feels a bit left out and different? Here is a project called ‘Travelling Awareness Bears’ that you can find at metagraphical.com will help them feel that they are not alone. I love this idea, I still remember my 3 year old sister feeling very secure with hanging onto her bear who had to have the same operation as she did. She had someone who understood right beside her. …To spread awareness around the world about different disabilities, disorders, syndromes, etc. while providing love and encouragement towards children. To help children not only feel more comfortable about their “differences” but, to show them that they are not alone with those “differences.”…. Travelling Bears

And now, after all that technology you might like to take a beauty break with this video from the blog AscendingStarseed.wordpress.com…As a teenager I went through a tree hugging phase and can remember having several very enlightening moments while communicating with trees…..Listen with your Heart

Please feel free to send me any link you have to inspiring or useful things, or join us on Facebook at Create’s Facebook Like Page and add them to the list.

Till next time, Gay

The Lost Horse – A Taoist Folktale

Gay — Thu, 26 Jan 2012 01:41:16 +0000

January 26th, 2013

This tale has been retold many, many times like any good folktale.
Here are a couple of versions….

A man named Sei Weng owned a beautiful mare which was praised far and wide. One day this beautiful horse disappeared. The people of his village offered sympathy to Sei Weng for his great misfortune. Sei Weng said simply, “That’s the way it is.”

A few days later the lost mare returned, followed by a beautiful wild stallion. The village congratulated Sei Weng for his good fortune. He said, “That’s the way it is.”

Some time later, Sei Weng’s only son, while riding the stallion, fell off and broke his leg. The village people once again expressed their sympathy at Sei Weng’s misfortune. Sei Weng again said, “That’s the way it is.”

Soon thereafter, war broke out and all the young men of the village except Sei Weng’s lame son were drafted and were killed in battle. The village people were amazed as Sei Weng’s good luck. His son was the only young man left alive in the village. But Sei Weng kept his same attitude: despite all the turmoil, gains and losses, he gave the same reply, “That’s the way it is.”

Chin-Ning Chu, in “The Asian Mind Game: unlocking the hidden agenda of the Asian business culture — a westerner’s survival manual,” New York:Macmillan Publishing Company(1991)

and another

A man who lived on the northern frontier of China was skilled in interpreting events. One day, for no reason, his horse ran away to the nomads across the border. Everyone tried to console him, but his father said, “What makes you so sure this isn’t a blessing?”

Some months later his horse returned, bringing a splendid nomad stallion. Everyone congratulated him, but his father said, “What makes you so sure this isn’t a disaster?”

Their household was richer by a fine horse, which his son loved to ride. One day he fell and broke his hip. Everyone tried to console him, but his father said, “What makes you so sure this isn’t a blessing?”

A year later the nomads came in force across the border, and every able-bodied man took his bow and went into battle. The Chinese frontiersmen lost nine of every ten men. Only because the son was lame did the father and son survive to take care of each other.

Truly, blessing turns to disaster, and disaster to blessing: the changes have no end, nor can the mystery be fathomed.

The Lost Horse, Chinese Folktale.
As told by Ellen J. Langer, in” The Power of Mindful Learning,” Reading, Mass: Addison-Wesley (1997).

Essence of the Month – I am Alive!

Gay — Wed, 25 Jan 2012 10:02:22 +0000

January 25th, 2012

I am alive!

I trust my energy and choose to follow my heart. I see through the mirage and joyful come to my senses embracing ‘what is’ and so become fully alive in the moment.

I laughed out loud when I made this! Made with the energy of the New Moon and coinciding with the start of the Year of the Dragon….

and if follows on so nicely from last months….

Freedom!

I am free to be me! I forgive my family, friends and loved ones of any perceived wrongs and have all the courage and strength I need to maintain my clarity and express all that I am.

For more info on the club have a look at http://gaylandeta.com.au/essence-of-the-month-club/

Have a great month, Gay

Booster : Shoshin (Beginners Mind) Meditation

Gay — Tue, 24 Jan 2012 01:43:15 +0000

January 24th, 2012

This mindfulness mediation helps us to learn the quality of the beginners mind, a place with clear perspective because it has no preconceived notions. It is both easy and very hard to achieve! So just play with the process.

Sit comfortably and look around you to find something that you are very comfortable with, something you have had for a long time. It may be an object or a piece of clothing or a piece or art or a plant, anything as long as it is very familiar.

Sit where you can see it. Close your eyes and open your Beginners Mind. Open your eyes and look at the object as if you have never seen it before. Imagine you are from another planet and this thing is a totally alien item. Do not judge it, just look at it and observe its qualities such as colours, shape, textures, shadows and light … Continue to reflect and consider what haven’t you noticed about this before?

Once you have completed this process you can consider how it would be to engage the quality of the Beginners Mind in every day life. How would life change? What would you see with new eyes instead of reacting to automatically?

Enjoy
Gay