Many people mistakenly think meditation is about stopping thoughts.

Trying to stop thoughts is a little like trying to stop breathing. It is the brains job to think and think it does. If you watch it  and see it for what it is, a stream of consciousness, it becomes apparent how it just rabbits on, hopping from idea to idea….  Write the booster… oh it’s raining… What will I have for lunch… do I have to go out … Green trees and grass… Heaters nice…. Miss having a dog… etc

Seeing the gap between the thoughts , words and ideas is a lovely way to see through the minds busyness and find the peace behind.

Focus your attention on the gaps between the thoughts, the pauses in the concepts, the empty blue black space between and behind the images.

When I do this I find time slows, peace descends and I am less attached to outcomes.

Practiced often it becomes a wonderful tool in times of stress.

Start by doing it for a few seconds at a time and build it up. You may like to make this a regular time of meditation or just find space during the day. However you do it I trust you will find a greater sense of spaciousness in your life.

Enjoy it and have a great month!
Gay

This article was written by Gay Landeta with the intention of helping you to Create the Life you Want to Live! All rights reserved 2011.

Tuesday October 25th, 2011

Just finished the essence of the month………

In the Flow…

I am peaceful, creative and respectful, of myself and others.
I rejoice in the flow of the universe,
present and aware of my spiritual connection with all of life.

Perfect for our times…. and tomorrow’s New Moon – see more at

http://astrologywithjanspiller.com/2011/10/22/new-moon-reminder%E2%80%A6-tuesday-october-26-scorpio-256-pm-est/

love Jan’s perspective!

Enjoy!

Gay

by the way… want to know more about the essence of the Month Club? http://gaylandeta.com.au/essence-of-the-month-club/

October 5th, 2011

I have been musing today on how we can be so attached to often quite inconsequential ups and downs, especially when we are feeling a little vulnerable. And, let us be honest, even if they are incredibly impacting, dwelling on them and allowing them to take us for a ride is not usually very helpful at all.

Usually I can take a bit of emotional rough and tumble fairly well these days. I can see it for what it is, a momentary ruffling of the waves of the mind, but diving down deep it is still the same calm, still space.

But sometimes, on days that I am a little more agitated or the waves are in a little bit of a sensitive area, it is a little less easy. Those days really suck!

Years ago I had a solid daily meditation practice. It help a lot with having two wild boys and a business to run at home. something happened though and it fell through the cracks. I decided to become more mindful each day. Live my practice instead of keeping it in one place.

That was great, and I had lots of other tools with Brain Gym and kinesiology… but I think I really need both to stay sane these days! So I am working on creating a new daily practice. Every morning.

I reckon recreating a practice is more difficult than creating one in the first place. But I know the rewards so I will do my best to stick to it.

By Christmas it should be a regular feature in my life once again, and I will be doing a bit more duck diving those big waves! I hope.

Here’s to duck diving the emotional sea!

Cheers, Gay

Our life is created around patterns of behaviour that we have developed to cope with, or in response to our experiences in life.

Often we wake up to old patterns that aren’t working for us anymore. We recognize that they are not useful and want to change but can’t. It can feel extremely frustrating to keep battling patterns we know are dysfunctional.

How to get out of them? First step, recognize the pattern in its entirety and how it has been useful. No matter how dysfunctional the behaviour, it was a defense mechanism that once upon a time worked. (Or at least was better than any other options.) Forgive yourself for being human!

Next decide what new behaviour could work and experiment with implementation. You will probably find it works for a little bit until you fall into the habit of the old behaviour. Again forgive yourself for being human.
Think it through a bit more, recognize the complexity of the pattern, maybe talk to some impartial outsiders to help you figure out a few more tactics and let go of a bit of baggage and have another go.

It will probably work a bit better this time. Or at least until you get stressed. Frustration or overwhelm hits and you might just pull out the old habit because at least it used to sort of work. And wham there you are again. Forgive yourself yet again for being human.

Maybe have another chat with your impartial support, dig a bit deeper and unpack a bit more of the old baggage, learn a few new techniques for dealing with stress, frustration and overwhelm and keep on keeping on practicing the new habits – until one day you notice they are your normal way of being.

Lets explore this in action, let’s say your old behaviour is screaming at or offering the silent treatment to the kids or your partner when they won’t help. (This is a pretty generic behaviour and one most people would prefer not to do.) Read the rest of this entry »

September 14th, 2011

this booster is from my last eZine… Hope you find some gold in it!

Passion and purpose. When these are missing life loses its meaning.Purpose may be difficult to find but it will find us – when we become passionate about life. This booster helps you to explore how you can develop more passion in your relationships and your life. Something we all want!

This will be a bit of a process… You might like to grab a pen and paper, a cup of tea and get comfy.

First think about times you feel passion. This may be while you are being creative, at work, with your kids, while being intimate with your partner, etc. Identify a passionate time for you.

Now identify your most dispassionate or lost place in your life. Consider some of the negative things you tell yourself. Perhaps I should be doing something else (ie this is the wrong place for me) or I don’t know what to do next (Ie I feel lost and have no direction) or I should do this next (Ie according to someone else, society or my culture I have to do X next), etc. Have a listen to all the negative and limiting language you use, much of it to try to keep you keeping on or taking the next step you think you SHOULD take.

Next imagine if you used those same phrases at your passionate time. If you tried to tell yourself what you should be doing next while playing with the kids, second guessing your next move in your next intimate encounter, or feeling hopeless and lost while involved in creating something. It just would not work. Same as in that part of your life.

Your challenge? Recognize the limits you put on yourself through language and practice reframing those negative phrases. Eg it is absolutely fine to be doing this right now or I will know what to do next when the time is right or Who knows what the next thing is to do, I will open myself up and just see.

Have fun!
Gay
PS if the old patterns are too hard to break come in for a session, let’s see what blocks we can break!

This article was written by Gay Landeta with the intention of helping you to Create the Life you Want to Live! All rights reserved 2011.

September 2nd, 2011

I just read this post from Jan Spiller and thought I would pass it on. Jan is writing from the perspective of the East Coast USA, ie her 3^rd is our 2^nd so things may already be feeling a little wobbly, if so let it settle before you make any major decisions.

I found it interesting that the essence of the month for September is  ‘Go!’ . ‘Open up to limitless opportunities, let go, forgive and move on!’ I think that epitomizes the balance that is needed this month for shifting forward from a balanced and whole place within.

….September 1^st, 2011…. A desire to rebel against those structures that are limited and that have outworn their usefulness, paired with opportunities to get more in touch with your true desires, will be this month’s predominant theme.

A Moon Wobble occurs on the 12th, the effects of which will be felt from the 3rd to the 16th. Moon Wobbles always stir up emotional energy, and people become more reactive under their influence. The primary danger associated with a Moon Wobble is a tendency to make too-quick decisions based on emotional impulse.

Because this month’s Moon Wobble occurs in the sign of Virgo, another’s criticism may be what triggers an unexpected urge on your part to make a sudden change. As this is not a good time to make decisions based on emotional reactions, you’ll have to try to rely on your intuition to tell you what is wrong and what is right without getting emotional. If you feel that something needs immediate change, observe it objectively for a while first; then, make changes, if necessary, calmly and unemotionally. Better yet, wait until the Moon Wobble is over before doing anything radically new….. Read more here http://astrologywithjanspiller.com/

Enjoy!

Gay

The challenge of the search for a soul mate is well known… so many think that once they find ‘the one’ they will be happy forever. The nice little fairy tale ending. But soul mates come in all shapes and sizes and are not always the perfect love match. Sometimes they are friends or relatives. And sometimes they  come into our life for us to explore our dark side.

These soul mate relationships can be very intense, painful and even harder to let go of than the perfect love match. I once heard these challenging soul mate lovers called the ‘Dark Lover’…. And ohhh, don’t they feel like that?! Very often we feel as intensely the pull towards them as the repelling away. Read the rest of this entry »

August 11, 2011

We are now in the few days before the full moon on the 13th and in a mercury retrograde… Most of us will be in a fairly reflective state of mind. This post from The Hames Report spoke to my heart, both as a parent and as a child. http://fiveliteracies.typepad.com/richard_hames/2011/08/stepping-into-abundance-a-letter-to-my-children.html

This is a goodie when you are just wanting a quick ground and centering.

Start by putting two fingers of one hand under your nose – just where your moustache would be and two fingers of the other hand where your tail would be. Hold these points for a few deep breaths, exhaling fully. Swap hands if you like.

Then put two fingers of one hand under your lips in the crevice above your chin and two fingers of the other hand on your belly button. Again hold for a few nice deep relaxing breaths. If you swapped before continue to swap hands in this step and the next.

Finally place the palm of one hand on your  tail bone and the other palm on your belly button. Breath a few more brreaths and relax fully.

By taking the time to re-centre like this your energy has a chance to re-find its flow and you will too.
Enjoy and have a great month!
Gay

Lovely essence for August and the Mercury retrograde going on from the 2nd to the 26th… aside from backing up your computers (!!) it is time to go within and make sure you are ‘on track’.

Listen and Know….

Listen and make clear decisions
Trusting the deep voice from within.
Acknowledge that we choose our own course
And ground into the power and joy of the present moment.

Have a fun month!